Parenting just like marriage is another element of daily living for many people which does not come with a manual or instructional booklet. You have to depend on your instincts to make a decision on what works for you or what you feel is right for your children. Parenting most of the time is dependent on how growing up was for the individual parent in the circle. So basically, there is no rule book.
One of the issues that border so much on parenting is the issue of sexuality: both that of the parents and that of the children. So, on the part of the children, some parents are okay with their children being around when they are not well covered. For some, it is a taboo. And for some, they say it is okay until they get to a certain age. So, talking about this issues of having or not having your children around when you are not properly dressed, here are some opinion from different sources.
According to an article on CNN website, it is of the proposition that there is no way you will be naked in the presence of your children without feeling uncomfortable. It also says that the only person who signed up to see you naked it only your husband* the children, they didn’t sign up for that. Some say the issue they cannot walk around the house naked in the presence of their children is because they have body issues.
For certain mothers, it is okay for them to dress up or be in the bathroom with their daughters. A particular mother said her daughter asked, “Mom, why do your boobs hang?” I can’t help but laugh and use the opportunity as a chance to tell them my body has changed over time and theirs will, too.
From a mum’s platform, momtastic.com, it had the story of a dad’s reaction to the issue. The stay-at-home dad related his story of how his 3-year old daughter had millions of questions concerning his penis when he had to shower in her presence.
Some others said they missed having their children’s nose pressed to the door as they took a shower, “ I haven’t had an unsupervised shower since later 2006 and I almost find it eerily silent when I don’t have to answer a single question during the shower. At ages 7 and 9, my kids no longer have their noses pressed up against the glass when I shower and if they pop in for a second it’s usually by accident. Although I don’t worry if they pop in for a second, I have noticed that they both usually say, “sorry mommy, I thought you were out”, before heading back out.” This means that they have come to their own conclusions about the importance of privacy when showering and that’s fine with me.
There isn’t any magical time or exact time to be unclad in your children’s presence of your kids or to stop being underdressed with your children. There are different ways of doing things in the presence of the children as well as different family comfort levels. So, my advice, do what you feel is right and what you believe in. Most of all do not trade your comfort for societal pressure and the ‘parenting angels’.
Nevertheless, I will be bringing your tips on how to handle this issue in comfortable ways for you and your children.
