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Critical thinking is the ability to think beyond your thoughts. It means breaking down your ideas (being analytical) and evaluating them and also having a sense of wonder. It also means being a reviewer of your own thinking. The illustration above is a hand drawing a hand. It shows one hand guiding the other and vice versa. This represents critical thinking, which is one thought leading to another but still surrounding itself on a particular idea. It is thinking about thinking and having to identify departures from the truth with a view to correcting any of such departures. That is…

We know that work can be stressful sometimes or all the time for some people. Here are a few tips on how to enjoy your job. Be Motivated Keep a positive attitude towards your work and don’t be distracted. Keep your goal(s) in mind and how you will achieve them without stressing your mind. A good tip to be motivated is to think about how in the end, your work allows you have a social life outside of it. Relax Once you are done with work for the day, leave the environment and do something that relaxes you the most.…

The White Savior Complex is the assumption by white people from developed countries, that they should be helping save poor people in Africa. It involves scenarios like having foreign volunteers do the work of local people. Them taking pictures of the local people for their entertainment and also adopting illegally. They also contribute to sustaining the negative stereotypes of Africa in their social media posts. They post pictures, videos or articles that do more in helping them appear good, than in helping the people they claim to help. It has been termed Poverty Porn. How To Avoid Being a White…

I’ve always wanted to write about why I’m an Ally. Growing up in Nigeria and as a Christian, I have always asked “why” when given instructions. I always want to know the logic behind rules. Being inquisitive has put me in a lot of trouble in the past, but I’ll save that for another post. One of the questions I’ve always asked is why being gay is seen as the worst thing that somebody could be. Why do gay people have to be spit on or imprisoned or burned? I’ll admit I used to be one of the people who…

The love of my life broke up with me. I broke up with him too before, but it still hurts. We had doubts about our relationship and both reassured each other about our love. I have always believed he was the perfect person for me, but he had his reservations. Whenever any of us had doubts about the relationship, I saw it as something that could be fixed. He saw it as something that pulled us further apart from each other. That was something we never agreed on. We both loved and cared for each other deeply. We were aware…

IK Ogbonna has opened up about his relationship with his wife, Sonia Morales. He revealed that they are not divorced. In an interview with HIPTV, he stated that his wife is somewhere in Europe with their son and that their relationship is still cordial. He said, “You are not divorced until you are divorced, so I’m not divorced. My wife and I, we are cool. She is back in Europe with my son and he is schooling there in Europe. My wife got her business going on and school at the same time.” With this latest statement, he has clarified…

Having a crush on a colleague is not something to be ashamed of, even though it is frowned upon. When you spend more time with someone than you do with your family, it is difficult to avoid them. I’ve worked in many places and have fully avoided falling for anyone. It was difficult though, to avoid this one person at a recent job. We spent a lot of time working together. I used that as a motivation to work and I felt it added drama to my life in some way. How did I deal with it? I did the…

Improving your day can be done with consistency. Make these your daily habits and watch how much better your life gets. Early To Bed Early To Rise Create a sleeping schedule. When you go to bed and wake up on time, you have time to yourself. This time can be used pray, meditate, exercise, enjoy the morning sun, etc. Prioritize Always remember to do the things that matter most to you and your loved ones. Avoid disappointing people by paying attention to the things that need immediate action. Read There are many sources for reading. If you don’t want to…

Remember a time someone was kind to you. Do you recall how it felt? Remember the time you were kind to someone. Do you recall their reaction? How did their reaction make you feel? Kindness affects you and the person you’re expressing it to. It leaves a mark. Everyone you meet is waiting to find happiness through riches or some form of ‘success’. We are so consumed by Money, Celebrity, Power, and Image that we put kindness aside. We are born into nurture by our parents. Kindness is engraved in our existence. Humans are literally wired to be kind. Kindness…

Misrepresentation is a recurring theme in Hollywood. I am one of the black women who feel personally about being underrepresented in lead roles on television. According to The Center for the Study of Women in Television and Film, black female characters on Television achieved a historical high of 17% women represented in broadcast Tv. The misconception that haunts many of us is that we are oversexed and angry. Who is the Angry Black Woman? We have all seen her either in dramas or reality shows. In 2016, when Taraji P. Henson won a Golden Globe Award for her role as…

My hair experience is not very straightforward. From being asked, “why do you refer to your hair as natural, isn’t it just your hair?” Well, the background of the term ‘natural’ in reference to our hair stems from the fact that we used chemical products to straighten our hair. It’s basically when your hair is in the state that you were born with. Childhood/Early Teens I joined the natural hair movement in 2012 after going through the phase of not liking my hair. It was not straight, long or soft enough. There were aunties, cousins, and friends who all had…

I have no confidence and I am anxious all of the time. I always have to be convinced or begged sometimes to attend events. I have quite literally stayed away from speaking in public. I don’t know how to start a conversation, so I’m alone at occasions. Honestly, if I saw someone else behave in the way I did, I would be irritated by them. Here’s what I do if I absolutely need to interact with people ( because how else will I survive life?). Copy I watch or think of people I know who are (or seem to be)…

Why do we want our parents to say that they love us? A few weeks ago, Nigerian-American rapper, Wale, appeared on Jada Pinkett-Smith’s Red Table Talk. He mentioned that he never witnessed his parents express love for each other or their kids in clear words of affection. He said that this affected the way he has handled relationships as an adult and stated that it was important and admirable that Jada and Willow had the type of relationship they have. This sparked up a conversation on social media, with many Nigerians expressing their views on why Nigerian parents are almost…