Relationships are the beginning of love. When we talk about maintaining a relationship we link that with buildings. Building strong communication, building intimacy, and building trust.
While building intimacy and communication can be built from scratch. Trust, however, is more complicated. Mostly because it doesn’t feel like a fresh state with every new relationship.
Unfortunately, we tend to carry trust issues – like its part of us- from one relationship to the next. If a person has been hurt or betrayed, it’s totally natural to want to avoid that happening again.
You Doubt Your Partner and They’re Pulling Back
Sometimes, people give us reasons to be suspicious; they’re not calling, being evasive, disappearing for long periods of time.
If you know logically, that your partner has given you no reason to doubt them but emotionally you find yourself being suspicious or on guard, that’s often a trust issue at play.
To work through this it’s best to let your partner know that you’re struggling. You know that they haven’t given you a reason to feel this way and that its something you are willing to and are working on.
You Constantly Thinking The Relationship Is Going To End
Often you may find yourself with a cavalier attitude towards relationship -the “Who cares? We are going to break up anyway” feeling- this is trust issues in play.
You may notice your partner gets frustrated that you seem apathetic or ambivalent toward the relationship and that they feel like your heart’s not really into it. If you look closer it may be that there’s a trust issue underneath.
If you feel this way from the onset, then don’t go into it. Why would you spend too much time investing in the relationship when you expect it to end? Answer this before going into anything.
You’re Resisting Next Steps
It’s totally normal to want to take it slow in a new relationship, but sometimes trust issues can keep you from wanting to make any steps. Often, the trust issues will keep you feeling uneasy or and having mental blocks about moving forward.
