Failure could be daunting, but there are ways you could bounce back from a significant defeat. I am pretty sure everyone has experienced loss at some point in their lives, and we all know that the feeling of failure could be destructive to some level. Barely making the pass mark in an examination, watching your business crash, getting fired from a job or even not being called back at that job you applied for.
When we experience failure, many other feelings come alongside failure; pain, loss of self-esteem, and demotivation. The most challenging part of failing is picking yourself up after being kicked in the balls by failure. But we can’t let failure restrict and limit us; we need to learn how to brush it off our shoulders, move on and live a more fulfiling life.
The most courageous thing you could do after experiencing failure is learning from it and moving on, it might seem complicated, but trust me, it is all worth it in the end.
Ways You Could Bounce Back From Failure
Revisit Your Failure
This statement might be taken out of context; when I say revisit your failure, I don’t mean you should live in it and wallow in self-pity. Failure doesn’t just occur; it is usually a result of something you did wrong or failed to do. Whatever the reason for your loss may be, learning why you failed is a big step in the right direction of tackling failure and bouncing back on your feet. Retrace your steps and try to evaluate the problem; the truth is that once you realise the mistake you have made, there is no way you would repeat it unless you love the feeling of failure, and I like to think that no one loves that feeling.
Forgiving ourselves is really important; we are our greatest critic, so we tend to be too hard on ourselves whenever we fall on our faces. Forgiving ourselves isn’t as easy as forgiving others; we define ourselves by these mistakes. It is impossible to bounce back from failure if you can’t forgive yourself. As humans, we can’t seem to grasp that absolutely no one is perfect, and we are bound to make mistakes. The earlier we understand that the easier life would be for us.
Learn From Your Failure
Failure always has a way of teaching you a valuable lesson; all you need to do is pay more attention. Everything that has a negative side has a positive side; always try to look for the silver lining in every situation. turn failure into a learning opportunity by listening to what it’s trying to tell you. When you learn from your failure, you don’t get the chance to address the issue that caused the loss in the first place; we also get to see the world from a different and fresh point of view.
Make Your Strength Your Focal Point
We as humans have a habit of focusing on our flaws on a typical day, talk less of when we fail. We associate our failure with our inadequacy; in some cases, this could be true, but sometimes the failure wasn’t necessarily a result of something you did wrong. If we can just focus on our strengths, it would be easier for us to bounce back from a major failure.
Surround Yourself With A Good Support System
Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves, only if we could see ourselves with the eyes of people around us. Whenever we experience failure, we tend to feel embarrassed and shut the world out, which is unhealthy. You shouldn’t carry that weight alone, talk to someone trustworthy and never underestimate the power of talking therapy. By sharing your experience, you open up yourself for words of encouragement and, better still solution to your problem