If you are below 18, still listen to baby shark, and your mom calls you by 9pm to know where you are, you’ll have to stop reading at this point.
Now on to the adults, between the pressures of work, the shaky economy, raising kids, and other pressures, steamy sex might sound great on paper but unattainable in reality. But it’s possible to have great sex in between the bumps and tides of living; thus we have some tips to help get you in the mood, both physically and mentally… Sweaty bodies, tangled sheets, satisfied moans… Sounds like an X-rated movie, but it could be your reality.
And if you’re one of the lucky ones who already has a great sex life, congratulations! But who says we can’t teach an old dog new tricks?
Communicate Openly:
Great sex is all about communication. Hence, communicate to your partner your sexual fantasies or a sexual act you are curious about. Also give a listening ear to your partner’s sexual fantasies. You might assume you have a higher sex drive than your partner does but maybe your partner is looking for something different out of your love life but hasn’t been able to ask. Create a time and space for an open, empathic conversation about sex, its bound to draw you closer and give more insights into your collective sexual needs.
Solve Sexual Problems:
Some health problems and challenges affect your sex life. For example, heart disease, arthritis, and hypertension, to mention, but a few can adversely affect your sexual health and pleasure. This is because sexual arousal is completely reliant on the blood flow to the tiny blood vessels in our genitals, including the clitoris, which gets erect the same way a man’s penis does.
So anything that impedes the rush of blood to your nether regions can affect your performance on bed, don’t be shy to see your doctor to address this.
Add Something Different To Your Routine:
Routine eventually becomes boring irrespective of the activity. If you’ve communicated earlier, it’ll be a good time to bring some of the ideas shared into your sex life. Sex toys? Sex somewhere else other than the bedroom? Role playing? Give them all a shot.
Kegel:
When it comes down to basics, orgasms are simply your pelvic floor spasming,” so if your pelvic floor muscles aren’t very strong, you’re not going to have explosive orgasms either. Many factors can weaken the pelvic floor in women, such as pregnancy, childbirth, aging, and weight gain. Men may also experience weakening in the muscles of their pelvic floor as they age.
One way to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles is through Kegels. So how do you do Kegels? Just squeeze the pelvic floor muscles (these are the ones that control urination) for several seconds and release and relax the muscles for several seconds. Do this regularly through the day. Best of all you can do this while seating at work, driving, or walking.
Create A Sexy Space:
Does your bedroom presently feel like an extension of your office or your child’s nursery? Well, it’s time to make it sexy again.
A major remodeling isn’t required. Simply clear out the kid’s toys, put away the work stuff and add small touches like candles, a nicer bedspread or a less brighter light bulb.
