Moving from home is usually one moment a lot of us looked
forward to. Especially if you had an overbearing mother, you would give
anything to stay away from her. Not because you don’t love her no more: you
just might not mind some fresh air so to say. So, have you imagined moving out at 18 and
having to go back home at 28 or 29? Well, life happens and so anything is
possible.
But just in case you find yourself staying at home as a proper adult, here are some tips that might help you have a not too bumpy experience.
- You need to accept that this is normal and can happen to anyone. It is easy to feel some sense of shame when your parents are also your roommates. This is not a big deal. Besides we all pray to spend more time with our family. So, why don’t you just see this as a time to bond with them. Enjoy your time at home and be as helpful as you can. Stop seeing or thinking of it as a problem. It is normal is all parts of the world so you will not be the first neither the last to experience that.
- Get a Job: Ok guys, as much as it is okay to spend some time at home and bond with mum and dad, trust me, that experience is only wonderful if you are busy. Get a job and earn a living. Having the feeling that your freedom is hampered with is normal when you are staying with your parents. But having money is a version of freedom on its own. Besides being able to buy yourself nice things, having money places you several rungs higher on the household ladder.
- Do grocery shopping every once in a while: As you are being mummy’s little one again, try to ease their burden a bit. It is a no-brainer to spend a little money on the occasional grocery run.
- Keep your space tidy: In simplest terms, clean your room tidy. Do not wait for someone to come clean for you. You should be the one paying for domestic labour at this point in your life. So, Clean up.
- Try to have dinner with your parents if you can: nothing brings a family together as much as sharing meals. At the table, you need to ask your parents how they are, how their day was, what they have been up to. You will be surprised how much they have to share.
- You might need to check your habits: if you have a drinking, smoking problem, or whatever you think is not a helpful habit, you might need to start dropping it. It might not be immediate but you can begin to look into it.
Well guys, if you find yourself moving back home at any
point, do well to have the right attitude. Do not forget it starts with the
mind.
Make sure that if at any point you have to leave again, do it on good terms. Do not forget we will not all be around forever, be kind and be happy.