I AM FINE

I believe the biggest lie most of us tell ourselves and other people is the simple three word sentence; “I AM FINE”. A great of number of people around the globe hide  behind a fake smiles daily, even they have something eating you up from within. You find yourself trying hard to making it through the day in school or in the office with bottled up emotions.

Whether you want to believe it or not, more than half the people who ask you how are you; Don’t actually want to know what you’re feeling.  They do it out of courtesy, because it has become the norm in conversations. Maybe it’s this knowledge that makes everybody tell the unanimous lie globally. So what is this real reason we lie to ourselves and our loved ones? Could it be we are employing the philosophical rule of speaking what you want into existence? Is it the belief that saying you’re fine over and over again when you’re not. Could it eventually make you feel fine? What could it mean when someone’s mouth says “They’re okay” but their eyes & their smile screams “Help me”.

TOO AFRAID

Too afraid of what exactly? Well, the main reason could be the fear of several things reallY. Such as; Getting too scared the person might think you’re weak, for wanting to get in touch with your emotional side. Afraid that the person may start to judge you rather than make you feel better. Worried or concerned that you might be bumming them out by rubbing someone of your sadness of them. On the other hand, there some people who genuinely care and expect an honest answer out of you. Therefore making them feel bad whenever they ask you how you are and you say fine when they can clearly sense you’re not.

What’s the point?

People are used to receiving “FINE” or “I am fine” to the question “How are you?” Not everybody knows what to do when you decide to break away from the norm and actually answer the question truthfully. An awkward silence is what follows, couples with a few “uhs” and “I’m sorries”. If you’re lucky you get a “do you want to talk about it?” or a “what’s eating you up?” or as my Zimbabwean friend would say “O jewa ke eng”. That’s another makes people reluctant to share. Save themselves from the inevitable awkwardness that might follow.