As society progresses we try to fight against expectations that would negatively affect our mental state. It is no surprise that women have started to ignore the ticking clock that is placed on marriage rites and childbearing. Before this social change, a woman well into her 30s and 40s would be shamed for being single.
A psychological revolt took place that disallowed a woman from feeling shamed despite whatever negative comments she receives for her choices. This development has solidified the decision some women have taken about being emotionally, financially, spiritually and physically stable before marriage.
We are dealing well and speaking up about the needless disapproval that comes with marrying at what society considers “late”, but there is hardly any discussion about early marriages. It seems we are shedding off one bad habit just to pick up another that is equally destructive.
Young people that decide to get married and build a life are referred to as foolish and impractical. Their marriage is usually met with unnecessary pessimism. Why do we think a young marriage would not stand the test of time?
While maturity can be attached to a certain age grade, it is not completely true that possession of discernment and understanding lies within that age grade. Young couples are capable of navigating life together while being aware that they’re still in the process of formation individually and as couples.
A post about a couple that decided to get married at 21 was made and the comments would torment anyone with dreams of marrying young. Some have concluded that at 20, you’re not the same person you’ll be at 30. While this is true, it can also be said for other ages. No one is ever the same as time progresses.
It seems reasonable that a couple can grow together into awareness of who they’re becoming. They can make certain adjustments in their growth process to remain compatible even 30 years later. Early marriage is not synonymous with a combustible union.
Guidance which can be provided by parents or parental figures is what is needed by the couple. They are sexually, mentally, emotionally and spiritually mature enough to work out their union and the one thing society can do is encourage and speak positivity into their life.
Love and commitment should not be restricted to a certain age. As we progress we should not switch one demeaning thought process for another. Being more humane with our words and actions is the goal.